How Ambassador Tommy Koh struck his most complicated, contentious deals.

Don't keep chasing solutions; make them sneak up on you.

We face an endless string of choices, which leads us to feel anxiety, guilt and pangs of inadequacy that we are perhaps making the wrong ones. But philosopher Renata Salecl asks: Could individual choices be distracting us from something bigger—our power as social thinkers? A bold call for us to stop taking personal choice so seriously and focus on the choices we're making collectively.

Don't go straight for the big audacious goals.