There’s a new style of leadership in town, and it looks radically different from what the “perfect” leader might have looked like in the past.

That new style of leadership is about leading by being “uniquely you,” even if that mean accepting flaws and imperfections, Nicole Enright, vice president of corporate services and Americas human resources at Avnet, said in a presentation at the 2015 Women of the Channel event in New York City.

However, for women in the workplace, accepting that can be a particular challenge, Enright said, admitting that she herself is a “recovering perfectionist.” Enright said many women struggle with accepting the idea that they are successful where they are, instead of trying to “have it all.”

“We can’t have it all at the same time,” Enright said. “You have unconscious bias to what you think you’re supposed to be doing and not accepting yourself as good, good enough or good just because of what you are doing today.”

For many women, that struggle occurs in three roles in their life: wife, mother and leader. Being a perfect mother is the role that Enright said she struggles with the most, a concern that was echoed by a significant portion of the room who raised their hand when asked if they ever experience “mommy guilt.” Enright said that she has had to accept that she would not be a mother who would match the picture of a woman with, for example, perfectly coiffed hair with two children, and a pie coming out of the oven. But that's okay.

Enright said that she has built a network at Avnet of working mothers, to talk about the challenges of the role and share advice for work-life balance. In her own life, Enright said she makes time to duck out of work to surprise her daughter for lunch or attend a band concert. That is an area where Enright said women can take a leadership role, acting as a model for other women in the workplace who want to find that same kind of balance.

Non-perfect leadership is not just for work-life balance, though, Enright said. She said that she tries to find balance in her corporate leadership style as well, establishing an equilibrium between leading by example and making sure her voice is heard and respected.

However, it isn’t just an internal conversation. Enright said people tend to reject leaders who are new and approach things in different ways, calling them “corporate antibodies.”

“Not only do we judge ourselves, but we also judge other people,” Enright said. “That’s really where we run into difficulty.” She urged the women in the audience to accept people’s differences and perceived imperfections, because those aspects are why they got hired and what will make them a great leader.

“That is the new style of leadership: being who you are and being okay with who you are,” Enright said.